How often do you sit down at the end of the year and reflect?
As we come to the end of another year, there’s a lot of mixed emotions. While many people are celebrating the year that’s been, others are wishing it had have been different. They’re struggling to see what’s changed since this time last year and hanging out for it to be over. Whatever boat you fall into, know that it’s ok and take some time to sit down and reflect on the months that have passed. Make sure you celebrate the small wins, the big wins and everything in-between. Try to find lessons in the times that have challenged you, but don’t spend so much time searching for the ‘why’ that you get trapped in the past. With reflection comes self-awareness and with self-awareness comes change (if you’re committed to it!).
Are you ready?
In-case you’re not, I’ll start.
2018 has been a huge year of personal growth for me. I’ve worked on embracing who I am and who I’m yet to be. I’ve put myself out of my comfort zone a lot and surprised myself many times. I finished studying, launched The Truest You, started seeing clients, kept letting go of what held me back in the past and took time out at Gaia. I’ve spent time in the city, country and by the water. I’ve met people who are similar and many who aren’t and got even clearer on the life I want and the person I want to be. I’ve made the most of family time, got comfortable with the idea of not having a 9-5 structured job, done things just for fun and made time for myself to recalibrate and step away from the race I was caught in before. That’s it all in a very tiny nutshell.
Now, I need to tell you that it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. I’ve been challenged on every single level of my wellbeing. I’ve had flare ups of my anxiety and ‘off’ days and weeks. I’ve been stressed, cried many times and had to learn lots of things the hard way. I’ve worried what people have thought of me, doubted if people have seen value in what I do, taken on too much and had days where I’ve woken up feeling like I’ve been hit by a truck.
It’s been far from glamourous and by no means a linear path. Instead, my year probably resembles a two-year olds scribble- one that makes me smile with pride like a proud parent. It’s been one of, if not the most, rewarding years of my life. It truly has. I’ve been able to do what I love, follow my passions, embrace my strengths, build on my weaknesses, meet like-minded people, notice what’s going well and prioritise myself. I’m proud of challenging myself, being open to learning and not letting the hard times keep me down. I know that 2019 is going to follow in this year’s footsteps and bring me just as much fulfilment. I thank each and every person that’s supported me in some way, big or small, it hasn’t gone unnoticed and it’s helped me get to where I am.
Ok, now it’s your turn.
Grab your favourite drink, find your favourite spot at home or wherever you may be and work your way through these questions. You might respond to them in your mind or write them down and use them as a reference point for this time next year. There’s no right or wrong. Just do what works for you.
Think back to this time last year or when the clock ticked over into the New Year.
How were you feeling?
What were you hoping for?
How were all areas of your health?
How were your relationships?
Were you simply surviving your days or thriving?
I’ve made most of the following questions a little bit easier by keeping them to three points. If you want to do more then go ahead, just challenge yourself not to do less!
What have been/are 3…
things that you achieved but didn’t stop to appreciate or celebrate
times you stepped beyond your comfort zone. How did you feel when you did?
times you surprised yourself
lessons you had to learn the hard way
things you’d like to stop doing next year (people pleasing, going to bed late, working on weekends etc.)
things you’re most proud of
things you’ve created
things you’ve kept saying to yourself. Were they positive or negative?
things you now love that you didn’t last year
times when you felt your best
people who have had a big impact on you
of the best decisions you’ve made
things you’d do differently next year
emotions you felt the most
new things you tried
things you spent most of your time on
things you’re ready to release and let of (thoughts, feelings, relationships, habits etc.)
of your biggest realisations
things you’re most grateful for
Now, finish these sentences:
2019 is going to be…
Next year I will…
do more of…
do less of…
spend most of my time on…
I’d love to know what came up for you when reflecting on these questions so reach out and let me know or comment in the box below.
Now, the final question is- how good are you willing to allow 2019 to be?