Not enough time or not a priority?
How many times have you heard or used the phrases “I don’t have time” or “I’m too busy”?
For so many of us, we believe that we lack the time to achieve all that we’d like to and we make matters worse by using such phrases. Each day sees a vicious cycle of crossing one thing off our list to simply add another half a dozen (and that’s on a good day!). When we get to the end of each day and realise it hasn’t played out as we’d hoped we can easily fall into the trap of feeling defeated, guilty and in awe of those who seem to strike what appears to be the ‘perfect balance’. The thing is, your version of balance would most likely be completely different to that of someone else.
The one thing that our days do have in common is that we have the same amount of time to fulfil our desires and carry out the necessities of everyday life.
For me it took a great deal of time to stop and reassess where I was allocating my time. It didn’t come easily at first but I have learnt that by prioritising myself and my needs, I live a more gratifying, connected and energising life and this ripples through to those around me. I am more present when spending time with those I love, I can stop to appreciate the small things in life (that are actually quite big on reflection) and I am aligned with who I am. How? I don’t have to ‘make’ time for myself or others, I ‘have’ it. Not because I don’t have other things to do, but because I want to spend my time with them, do something I love or nurture myself. I make choices.
When we say we don’t have time, whether that be for ourselves, others or something else in our lives, we are essentially saying that all of the above aren’t as significant to something or someone else.
There will be times when you really want to spend some time on self-care or you desperately want to see a close friend and it’s hard to find a free day. Instead of saying how busy you are and listing everything else you have on, try telling them that you value them, would love to see them soon and that you enjoy their company. Most importantly tell yourself that you are worthy of spending time doing all the things that bring you joy and bring out the best in you.
At the end of the day, we all have the same gift of time. It’s how we choose to use the irreplaceable resource that reflects all of who we are.
So, instead of making the same excuses and experiencing guilt for what you are and aren’t doing, take action. Make some lists or do some journaling.
- How do you spend your time and how would you like to spend it?
- What is most important to you in this present moment and what can wait?
- Who and what energises or depletes you?
Be honest with yourself. You’ll know where you need to make changes. Start small, be flexible and challenge yourself. Decide what to do more and less of. What to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to. Hold space for what matters, make sure your priorities are in line with your values and be comfortable with the messages that your action or inaction is sending you and those you love. Give it some time and frequently check-in.
If you really want something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. – Jim Rohn
I’m right here if it all seems a little too hard to get started or maintain. It is my aim to help you reach a point where you have the tenacity to prioritise you and what matters the most to you without feeling like you have to justify yourself to others or worry that they will think less of you.
Go after what you cherish most in life and treat yourself as more than an option. After all, you’re your highest priority.
Spend time honouring that.
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