3 ways to quieten your inner-critic
What are you thinking right now?
Did you know that you have on average 60 to 80 THOUSAND thoughts a day?
Can you guess how many of these are positive ones?
Go on, have quick guess...
20%! Yes, that’s it.
That means that around 80% of your thoughts are negative. That's not ideal and while we aren't striving for every single thought to be positive (is that even possible?!) you can try and boost that 20% and make your days a little easier to get through.
So, knowing this, it's no wonder you get a bit overwhelmed sometimes.
What I want to chat to you about today are the stories you're telling yourself. Those repetitive stories that you've had on a loop every single day. They may be big ones or small ones, but either way they're holding you back and changing your perception of yourself and the world around you.
A lot of the women inside my online coaching membership, The Truest You Collective talk about their challenges with their inner chatter and how much it's kept them in the same place- stuck, overthinking and frustrated for too long. It's been amazing to see some of their shifts in such a short space of time from the work they've done, unlimited support from me and from following my 5-step framework!
So I wanted to share some tips with you too!
Here are three things to try when you feel like your inner-critic is getting a little too loud…
1. Give it a name.
Name that inner voice so each time it chimes in to tell you you’re crap at something, never going to be able to do what you want, will be stuck like this forever, don’t deserve what you want, aren’t as good as you think etc. you can say, “Oh thanks for that X’ and then follow it with something like “But I’m choosing not to listen to you right now.”
2. Ask yourself ‘Is that true?’
We can get very good at believing our negative self-talk. Whenever your inner voice tells you something, decide if it’s true or not and then remind yourself that it’s not (which will be the case 99% of the time). You could say ‘I’m telling myself that story that…’
3. Give yourself some compassion.
If you wouldn’t say what you’re telling yourself to someone you love and respect, then why do you deserve it? You could say to yourself ‘Be gentle (insert name)’ as a reminder when you’re being hard on yourself.
Which tip are you going to try next time your inner-critic starts running the show- 1, 2 or 3?
Let me know in the comments below!
Bridget x
If you’d love more tips like this and to be able to get to understand and reframe your limiting beliefs so you’re inner-critic no longer keeps taking over you can learn the 5 steps to take in my free online workshop! It runs for less than an hour and could make a huge difference! You can save a spot in one of my workshops here.